wife's a young relatives wrote me this letter out to protect her privacy
, and I will do the title of the letter technical processing , the
following is her letter and my reply ( the red part of my
reply ) :
UU Hello :
I still call
you that UU 's behalf I still acknowledge that you are my elders , I
will fully respect you.
I have read
carefully the website where you sent me all the content , I do not know
why you want to tell me this.
This social experience for me now
, it 's all too complicated.
But now , since I know
these things , then I have to stand on my position , and you say a few
you regard me as a UU, but in fact, and I have separated and divorcing
my wife has also been progress, in fact I am no longer your UU it.
quite right, you only 20 years old and should not be doped into adult
disputes in the past, but you have the right to know the truth ,
although the truth is cruel. )
you in China during , you and I and my family are a happy , you and I
have shared your cat videos and other videos , but also pick
strawberries together , read our magical Guilin karst stalactites
also saw a 15 meters long painting
three-dimensional carvings . Thank
you and we have fun together .
You and your wife leave China and go to Norway until now these days , I
do not know what happened between you in the end , but you should
believe that you had before because of love combined .
( I do not deny that I spent in Guilin great time , and I really miss
the good old days in Guilin , and I am wondering why when my wife to
Norway , she told me the attitude has changed. Want to know
Guilin , I do
believe that we are in love . , but came to Norway , she began to slowly
change it. )
Secondly , and perhaps cultural reasons for the differences , so that
you and my family had a lot of misunderstandings and unpleasant , but
please do not put these you are with my family's household chores up for
the Chinese people 's moral standards to judge , this is stupid.
Ethics, conduct legitimate means to
measure whether or not the concept of standards.
Standards of right and
wrong come from different specific production capacity, production
relations and naturally formed under lifestyle .
A society generally socially accepted
code of ethics.
only individuals, between individuals , families and other personal
relationships of ethics, called private morality ; involving public part
of the moral community called morality .
Groups tend to become moral consciousness of others accused in the
modern , morality has returned to the individual's self- view ,
criticism of others is not called morality, reflect on their own
Accused only bring quarrels, blindly blame others , in my opinion not a
normal man should do .
( Communication between me and my wife poor indeed cultural differences
of factors in there , but more of the same thing in different standards
, for example, I absolutely can not accept still hit and run driving
without a license , my wife's
brother is one such example , but my wife , when she knew her brother
made such a thing , she thought only to get money to help him pay back
the money , that he was arrested or where the defendant , so that the
next time she
What my brother got into trouble, or will help him wipe my wife , her
brother will never be a responsible man. your letter inside, many of
which are on the network or copied text books , you have not really
understand the meaning behind these words do ? " do not believe the book
as no book ", which is your Chinese words , your own morality ,
worldview , and is kind of how ? )
Again, you borrow the force of
public opinion , in order to prove what ?
You want to show that you are the victim it ?
You get the same Chinese word :
My family does not want to give me and my family know that you place
between the various , but let me first contact with these things is
through you , I have good reason to suspect your motives , you want to
destroy our unity within the family .
people pay attention to ' the 1st couple hundred days grace ', ' Ten
years of cultivation the same boat , a bed sleep a hundred years of
cultivation ,' rather demolished ten Temple, do not split a marriage ' .
My family are the
traditional Chinese people , Chinese people are either doing nothing
more than a "feeling" words.
You, as a Norwegian ,
you accept the western culture , while the understanding of the family
may have lost. You will
never understand Chinese people understand kinship , thicker than water
. You know what is Kongrongrangli it ?
Do you know what lay on the ice carp
it ? Do you know what brothers what ?
Please wait for you
to understand these allusions come when properly view this site written
content. You in
your QQ space is written to allow more Chinese people to criticize us a
man? Is to let more
people know the truth ignorant masses into thy affliction drama it ?
It is irresponsible to the public .
Network is a
virtual community , but the virtual community and social reality are
inseparable, directly related to the reality of social harmony and
Internet rumors to lie packed into the "facts " will guess flipping into
a " presence " in the online trouble and disturbing .
If allowed to run amok,
will seriously disrupt social order , affect social stability and
endanger social integrity . Honesty is
the traditional Chinese virtues . Is
the most respect for the quality of the Chinese nation .
I do not want to see that
there are so many people deceived by rumors , which Weihuzuochang , do
evil . You cold is human, is cool
( In fact, this whole thing is not my first borrowed the force of public
opinion . " Blame " this sentence should be used in my wife who falsely
accused me of domestic violence because she went to her , I will use the
network media to promote something about
the truth of this matter , because she told me false accusation has
caused substantial damage to many of my friends are not dealing with me
, just thought I was a man playing a woman , and in fact, I have even a
untouched my wife you told me that ' the 1st couple hundred days grace
', ' ten years of cultivation the same boat , a bed sleep a hundred
years of cultivation ,' rather demolished ten Temple, do not split a
marriage ', do not read the couple
Well , you want to break up the marriage , is my wife , you know, from
her into the women's shelters and domestic violence began to tell me
that she does not intend to marriage .. In the meantime, I just want her
to Guilin , to handle her financial problems , she borrowed so much
money banks , as well as her brother to ask someone to borrow money on
the outside to have her still , she stuck in the stock market is also a
lot of money , not only did not flesh also
thought to continue to drive investment money , so I do not want her to
toss out the money , I hope she deal with these financial issues and
then come back to Norway , but she walked straight into a women's
shelter . I, as a
Westerners , perhaps you are not the most understanding of Eastern
culture , but at least I know to do one pair of themselves, but also the
person responsible for others , my wife's brother, he know ? my wife
how much to pay for him , you know ? my wife
dragged by her brother in this life how much you know ? now her
brother continues to drag my wife , my wife do anything for him around
, including her false accusation made my decision , but also his ideas
her brother is not only that he is an irresponsible person , he also
instigated others to become an irresponsible person , which is not
acceptable to me and each person who regarded themselves manage , there
would be so many things
of you think I'm in the destruction of unity within your family , if you
are really that unity within the family , I am an outsider and how to
destroy it ? are you a high school student , and later it will be going
to college ? bar first learn to think independently
, please stop harm my family's reputation and privacy and other legal
rights, including your wife , your wife's sister, and your wife's brother.
I do not like strangers to my
family finds fault .
More reluctant they brought them a meal as a joke , or discuss with
others in conversation. If the
role on the exchange, you are willing to suffer this kind of treatment
it ? You know : Confucius
once said, ' Do unto others not do to others .'
I do not know if
you make one of these sites is what is meant is to get more people know
the truth of the support it ?
what your Norwegian law , the People's Republic of China Tort Law and
Civil Law for your such behavior are clearly defined.
( I am willing to put my things are uploaded to the network removed , as
long as the withdrawal of my wife also falsely accused me and help me
restore the reputation , she is willing to do ? You can convince her? 'm
Afraid you as a junior , did not speak at home
right now , my wife brother firmly in control , in order to
satisfy his own desires , forcing his sister stay in Norway to make money,
if you are my wife , will you ? your hard-earned money all repatriated
, debt to his brother , and you do not know when he owed a debt ass to
you . my wife miss her son , but they can not return to see his son ,
she is actually very hard here, too , would have been if she
Norway , even if we divorce, I do not have any comment , because, as
Westerners , we are independent of the individual, after the divorce,
she was not in Norway, is not related to me , but I can not accept her
to achieve through false accusations I stay in Norway
purposes. ' do unto others not do to others ' this sentence, you should
say to her fishes, if not her first framed me , how could I have
uploaded those things yet. )
People's Republic of
Tort Law Article civil rights and interests range ( on privacy )
1 , without
citizen permission to disclose their name, likeness , address , ID
number and phone number.
2 , private
demolition others letters, diaries others peep , spying the contents of
private files of others , and to them publicly .
3 , investigation, spy on
others, social relations and illegally made public.
4 , the collection to the
public of citizens do not want to purely personal situation.
5 , without their permission ,
unauthorized publishing of people 's secrets.
6 , individual citizens
leaked material or made public or expand the scope of the disclosure .
Chinese Civil Law Article 140
In writing, orally in the form of other people 's privacy , or
fabricating facts openly vilify others personality , as well as the use
of insults , libel or other means to damage the reputation of others ,
some impact , it should be recognized as an honorary citizen the right
to act against .
PRC Tort Liability Act ,
Chapter Article III:
Infringement of the right to
request the infringer to bear tort liability.
People's Republic of Tort
Liability Chapter Article VI:
Due to fault of the
perpetrator against the civil rights of others , shall bear tort
to the law presumed perpetrator is at fault , the perpetrator can not
prove that he is not at fault , should bear tort liability.
People's Republic of Tort Law
Chapter II Article XV :
Tort liability approach are:
( A ) stop the infringement
( Two ) removal of obstacles
( Three ) eliminate the hazard
( Four ) return of property
( Five ) restitution
( Six ) damages
( Seven ) apology
( Eight ) to eliminate the impact of
These bear tort
liability approach can be applied individually , or you can apply in
My answer :
10 October 2013 , I never thought to damage the reputation of my wife's
sister and privacy , etc. This is because before , she had never done
anything to me . Moreover , with regard to the previous
and her brother all the things that my wife's sister gave me
some useful information , and also said that she does not agree with
my wife's brother and she hated his brother's lies,
and strongly opposed to the amount of money used in this brother who,
she knew that the money is never to return , my wife's brother is a
bottomless pit , so I always think my wife's sister morality is correct ,
much higher than
my wife , I once admired her , but one day, she is in my QQ space made
the following passage:
October 7, 2013
Ning told my sister : Ning and
you go to Bangkok dating.
In 2011 , Ning stay at your house , while my sister was not at home ,
you have to seduce rather , in December 2012 , you have framed my sister
and said: My sister needs rather help to find a man in Denmark , really
funny, this time
Ning Danish police have already been repatriated , this is your and Ning
collusion framed my sister , and now you two went to Bangkok dating
proved Richard , you are having an affair .
Contrary to marriage. You framed my
sister , you are wicked .
I can understand that because I'm divorcing her sister and I and
publicly exposing her attempts to gain a Norwegian residence permit
through lies the younger sister is very angry at me.
But I can not
forgive her malicious slander regarding Ning, fabricating facts to say that I am
rather in 2011 and has been struggling .
Ning repeatedly advised me to put
online content removed , trivialize , do not let conflicts .
I am very disappointed
my wife's sister , her in order to affection, can attack an innocent
Your " flesh and blood " is that you can go against all conscience ,
ethics , the dirty water poured on an innocent person do ?
What's more, you Chinese have "severing ", " Prince of offense and the
common people with the crime ," whether this person is your family or a
friend , if he made a mistake, they should bow to admit and correct
mistakes, as family and friends, should help and
encouraged him to correct the error ,
and not condoned , harboring criminals ! )
I love my family , but I understand right and wrong , but I see the
content you express are too let me down, I prefer to believe them to
live together with my family for two decades .
This time the letter represents only my personal point of view , are all
my heart and soul, please forgive me for not communicate with you in
English , after all, five thousand years of Chinese culture is profound,
some words I can not use English to express.
I wish you good health.
of NN: NN