I warned my wife about lying to the police in an attempt to fraudulently get a Norwegian residence permit by misusing the abuse provision section 53b of the immigration act. At a meeting with the family counselling office the following sentence was translated by a human translator for her:
“I will not tolerate any lies, false information or false allegations about me to the police or any other public authority. I am willing to devote significant resources to dealing with people who make false allegations. False claims about abuse to public authorities with the intention of obtaining unlawful stay in Norway will lead to immediate petition for divorce.”
This includes persons who encourage my wife to fabricate lies for example her brother.
Why do I care about this? I care about my reputation!
I am educated as a vernepleier. This is a profession equivalent to a nurse specializing in work with retarded and handicapped persons. During my career I have become fairly well-known and respected among my colleagues. In the 1970s I was involved in struggling for the rights of the handicapped people I work with to eat in restaurants without discrimination, to go to school, go on vacations, etc. like the rest of the Norwegian population. I’ve also been involved in protecting these people from violence, improper psychiatric treatment, and unnecessary and harmful medication. In 1989 I complained to the head doctors and that ministry of health about physical violence and unnecessary medication a retarded woman named Solveig was being subjected to. They did not listen to me. I released videos I had secretly taken up of physical violence to the media. This resulted in one of the largest health sector scandals in history of Norway! (Sol saken)
The average person in this country is aware that sometimes women go to the women’s shelter and make false accusations regarding abuse, particularly in disputes where children are involved. False accusations regarding abuse are an effective means to prevent contact between the children and the father. But why would a woman without children choose to live in a woman’s shelter unless she was actually abused? Very few people know about paragraph 53b and will almost certainly come to the conclusion that a woman without children living in the women’s shelter is there because she has been subjected to some sort of serious abuse.
In April 2013 I told my wife I would divorce her. I had very many good reasons for wanting a divorce. Unfortunately this left my wife with only two choices:
1. Return to China and continue working in the bank. Find another way to manage the 250,000 loan on her apartment on her monthly salary of under 4000 and her brother’s debts.
2. Go to the women’s shelter and make false accusations about abuse. Receive social welfare and assistance to find a job. (The other woman mentioned earlier that Martha assisted in going to the women’s shelter and making claims about abuse is earning 20,000 a month for nearly a year now! Her case is still not decided by the police.)
Let us examine what kinds of abuse section 53b of the immigration act was intended for.
The woman’s shelter where my wife is staying has a definition of abuse on their web site http://www.kisif.no/vold-og-mishandling/hva-er-vold.html:
“The use of psychological and physical violence against other people, such as:
•Threats
•Bullying
•Harassment
•Forced Isolation
•Hitting
•Kicking
•Hair pulling
•Biting
•Binding
•Assault with various objects
•Cutting or stabbing with a knife
• Drowning attempts
• Forced marriage
• Female genital mutilation (circumcision)
There are also numerous forms for sexual abuse. For example use of physical force or threats.
http://www.bt.no/nyheter/innenriks/Voldtatt_-sultet_-sperret-inne_-truet-pa-livet-2318176.html#.UeRvb_msudA
Above is a link to a Norwegian newspaper article. This article describes some of the horrific and disgusting abuse some women have been subjected to. Some examples from the article:
1. A man invited his friends to his home to drink alcohol and take turns raping his wife from Thailand.
2. According to the newspaper article “Many of the men rape regularly. They lend their wives to their friends for sexual purposes “.
3. Some of the men keep their wives locked up and do not allow them to use telephone or Internet.

I do not appreciate my reputation sullied by being accused of any of these things. I have never abused my wife!
As I mentioned earlier very few are aware of the rules in abuse provision paragraph 53b. They will almost certainly come to the conclusion that I have abused my wife.
Relevant reading:
http://www.regjeringen.no/nb/dep/bld/dok/nouer/2012/nou-2012-15/16/6.html?id=700023